My tween-aged daughters appreciated this outside, objective source of advice for determining the modesty of an outfit from The Secret Keeper website:
Obviously, a reader’s personal standards might be much more or much less conservative than this, but it’s a starting point to discuss modesty standards, and why they matter. Ultimately, they need to flow from a personal faith in Jesus Christ and a love for Him and desire to honor Him in every single way…as a temple of the Holy Spirit, how does that affect the way we dress? These are important questions to raise with young and developing girls who are thinking a lot about style and boys.
Just to give you an idea of what the Truth or Bare tests are like, the first one is “Raise and Praise.” To see if too much belly shows, raise your hands and see how high your shirt rides up. “Bellies are very intoxicating,” the text says, “and we need to save that for our husbands.”
The suggested solution? Layers. It suggests getting a ribbed tank top or tank top from the men’s department to wear underneath.
It goes through several other tests to test for whether or not cleavage (or for some tweens–future cleavage) is peeking out, undies showing, etc.
It’s set up for the girls to go through themselves, with photos of real girls in that tween age-range, happily giving the test a try.
With swimsuit season upon us, the girls and I have been talking a lot about modesty issues and principles on which to base our decisions. This has been an excellent tool that’s worked for us and opened up lines of communication.
I hope it helps launch healthy discussions in other households, as well.
** UPDATED: These “tests” can be implemented when girls are very young, so that even little girls get used to thinking about coverage. They’re good for grownup women to consider, as well. I pulled on a pair of brown slacks this weekend, bent over and looked in the mirror. Sadly, they failed the pantyline test…I either have to lose a little weight or donate them to Goodwill… **
For more WFMW ideas, return to Rocks In My Dryer, or take a moment to peruse my previous posts via my Works For Me Wednesday category.